Submitted by ThrowRA2333106 t3_zpfgbd in relationship_advice
Im having a hard time trying to understand why I’m bothered by this, so maybe I’m overreacting or overthinking it but let me start with context …
today my husband (30m) and I (30 f) were having a conversation with my family and we were talking about how my husband was popular growing up and has always gotten a lot of attention from women etc. My step mom then chimes in and asks “so what made [my name] special, why’d you pick her?” (Note- this sounds like a weird/blunt question but you kind of have to know her to know this is how she operates and she wasn’t being mean or rude whatsoever, just inquisitive) And then my husband said “she’s special because she stuck around. I tried to push her away like I do to most people but she stayed.”
I know he didn’t mean to say anything hurtful and maybe again this is just me over thinking but for some reason that answer just keeps replaying in my head…I want to be loved for who I am, not what I have to offer someone else but maybe that’s part of who I am?
We’ve been together for almost 10 years and he has said stuff like this before like “the thing he loves most about me is how well I love him” and I do love him. So incredibly much. But those statements for some reason just make me feel a little sad. I’m not sure why I’m shouting this into an anonymous sea of strangers but I suppose I’m just looking for some thoughts outside of my own head.