Submitted by THROWRACHRISTNEICE t3_zq7q8y in relationship_advice
Throwaway account,
So to make a long story short, my sister (18) and I (22f) had a fight last year around May and ever since then we haven't been talking to each other beside polite conversation or for me when I answer a question from her and even those conversations are very small and short. During this time she had a baby and moved out of our parents house into her boyfriends house, and since we hadn't been talking I didn't really care about the baby. So ever since the baby's been born I've only held her once and been able to interact with her very little, and that's how it was up until a couple of months ago and she told my mom that I wasn't allowed to hold the kid or touch the kid in anyway, so whenever my mom was babysitting and I was over there, she said that if she found out that I had touched the kid she would never let her kid come back over to my mom's house. So ever since then I haven't touched the baby or held the baby and it's been okay since I didn't want to make my mom lose access to her only grandkid, well now that Christmas is coming up, my mom and other sister (23) have been asking me what I'm getting my niece for Christmas and I told them I wasn't getting her anything and they got upset with me and told me that I shouldn't take my anger out on a baby that didn't do anything to me. I told them that I understand that but why should I buy a gift for a baby that I don't get to interact with or get to hold or anything. How can I explain to my family where I'm coming from?