Submitted by ThrowRAHapaChild t3_zqxdcg in relationship_advice
I am Kenyan and my wife is Chinese, and recently we learned that she is pregnant. The main problem with this though, is her parents. Her parents are absurdly racist. When they first found out that we were dating, they demanded that she should break up with me because of my race (it should be noted that they have no problem with her dating people that aren't Chinese, they just really don't like black people), and they only ever relented because they found out that I work as senior management at a large tech company and that I make a huge amount of money. Even knowing this though, they apparently still make snide, racist comments about me to my wife whenever I'm not around.
Now, I do not want my child around these people at all. I do not want them to grow up thinking that something is wrong with them just because they are half black, and I can only imagine what types of shitty things they might say to them when I'm not around. My wife on the other hand, despite having first-hand experience with how bigoted they are, does not agree with me. She thinks it's cruel to deprive grandparents of their grandchildren, and she also wants our child to have a relationship with both sets of grandparents as she believes that their growth will be stunted without this. I tried bringing this problem up with my family, and for some reason, despite the fact that they are literally all black, they agree with my wife and think that I'm being unreasonable.
Am I just going insane or something? I would've thought that making sure that you don't expose your mixed child to people who hate 1/2 of them was good parenting, but according to the people around me, I'm just being selfish. Should I just relent, or am I in the right here?