Submitted by ThrowRA123dsa82 t3_zrmtfr in relationship_advice
Don't tear me apart yet, please. I am so ashamed of even making this post but I absolutely need an outside opinion on this. Do you think a relationship can work if I don't find conversations with my girlfriend particularly stimulating?
We met through Tinder and we have been together for 8 months now and while at first I didn't notice (or maybe I did not want to notice it), I am slowly realizing that.. well, she's just not particularly bright. I don't mean this in an offensive way, really. She's a great person, she's very fun to be around, she's incredibly kind and she is quite obviously a very emotionally intelligent person. And that's on top of her being absolutely beautiful and incredibly compatible with me in bed too.
But when it comes to being "smart", she's just... really lacking.
She really struggles to catch really obvious hints. If something is even barely implied and you have to make a simple connection to something else to understand it, she just goes "eh? what does that mean?". And while this would not even bother me that much at first, I often find myself having to explain to her something that, well, I literally already explained her like a couple of months ago. I won't lie, it is becoming frustrating and while it was maybe "cute" at first I am starting to "enjoy it" less and less. Like, we watched Interstellar recently and I had to explain to her the time dilation thing 2 times, and by the end of the movies she still didn't really understand how the guy didn't age. I won't lie, that really got me thinking "you have to be doing it on purpose, there's no way".
Now when I say I am irritated by it, I mean that it bothers me for a couple of minutes, 10 minutes at best. It's not like I get mad or it ruins my mood for the entire day. I don't lash out at her or anything like that, it just bothers me inside. However I've been thinking that since quite literally every other aspect of the relationship is basically fairy-tale perfect, I should just learn to be more patient and accept it as her only flaw and live with it. After all, everyone has a flaw, and this might just be hers.
Do you think this is something that can be overlooked? I am afraid that it could be one of those things that you keep inside of you until you eventually explode and ruin it all. I want to know especially if there's anyone out there in a similar situation maybe? Thanks in advance for the answers