Submitted by THESt0neMan t3_zs0pgo in relationship_advice
I (34M) came home today with questions from my wife (33F) about specific posts I made. Nothing was anything I wouldn't tell my wife, but it felt like an invasion of privacy.
I know it is there for anyone to see, but I didn't think she was looking through my every post. I have always been hesitant to post or reply, but now I feel like I cant post anything.
I've never had a burner account for anything, and don't plan to start one now.
Any ideas of how to get over this?
PS: Hey Honey
Edit: To clarify, I'm not hiding stuff from her, we have great communication. The specific post she asked me about was a reply to a post on if a guy must have cheated if he spent a large sum of money at a strip club. I just replied that it's not uncommon to spends lots of money and get nothing. That I know one guy who spent 3k for a night and only got lap dances. My wife know about the bachelor party and the strip club and the total bill, but didn't know about one person spending that much and wanted to know who spent that much. And it's a freinds of my little brother, someone she met once, so telling her who wasn't a big deal. It was that I came home and it was hey babe ... Who spent 3k at your bro's bachelor party?
Edit 2: I understand that reddit is a public forum, but I see it differently than say Facebook or Twitter. I don't have my name on reddit and I don't add my friends on reddit, so it just felt more private to me.
We further discussed my feelings about this last night and she totally understands where I am coming from and said she will not do it. The reason she was looking through my posts was that I have been depressed about something specific and she was doing a wellness check on me. She had remembered specific times I was depressed and was looking to see if she could understand my depression more. It was a really sweet sentiment, while maybe being executed a little oddly.