Submitted by ThrowRAcoffee1995 t3_zswmh7 in relationship_advice
Hi everyone. This is exactly as the title sounds. I 27F went through my boyfriends 27M phone because I saw an unfamiliar girl was snap chatting him multiple times. It turns out he sent her explicit pictures/selfies and asked her for nudes. I saw everything. He was also supposed to go meet up with her to hook up and blew her off which was why she was snap chatting multiple times pissed off. I’m just crushed I never would have expected this from him. When I confronted him he screamed at me for going through his phone, smashed a gaming chair in front of me when I told him I was moving out, and kept saying he was doing the right thing by ignoring her. His excuse was that we were fighting and I don’t have sex with him enough. I just can’t believe he would put me through this. After I put so much work into taking care of our son, working full time, and doing all the housework, I am exhausted and barely in the mood anymore. Plus he has been arguing with me about so many random things ever since we moved out. Over something as small as me accidentally getting his boots wet to not getting him up on time for work. I’m in such a hard position to leave too because we have a house together and I don’t have anywhere else to go right now. He wants to work things out but I simply do not trust him and I don’t even know if I can look at him the same. He claims everyone goes through something like this/gets cheated on but that does not sound right. I just feel so trapped and alone.
Update:
Thanks for everyone kind words and advice. I decided I’m going to talk to my mom about moving back in with her. Very eye opening and I definitely know now I’m not the crazy one here