Submitted by ThrowRA_andig14 t3_zt90oi in relationship_advice
Boyfriend won’t let me meet his girl roommate
My boyfriend (31m) and I (22f) have been together for 7 months now and have been very happy. He says him and his girl roommate are friends. They have dated before a couple years ago and decided to live together. Their relationship didn’t work out for them. So now they are just close friends. He told me this in the very beginning. I did feel a little uncomfortable that he was living with a girl. A friend of his did tell me too that there just good friends. So for awhile, I trusted him. But I have been thinking for awhile, why I never thought of meeting her. I ask my boyfriend if I can meet her But he keeps saying she not ready. Then he tells me that she still kinda has feelings for him but he doesn’t have feelings for her back, that He just sees her as a sister. He says she feels uncomfortable to meet me.
For awhile now I’ve been asking when am I going to meet her. He just kinda brings up excuses at this point. Excuses like, “ she’s too busy”, “Not yet”, or “not right now she doesn’t like being around people”.
I think, as a girlfriend, I should meet the person he is living with especially if it’s a female. Maybe he is hiding something? Im starting to feel uncomfortable and overthink a lot on why he’s not letting me meet her. I feel stupid for overthinking this too much. I don’t know what to do about this.
Edit: Just to clarify, I have been to his place. But when his roommate is not home. They both do have separate bedrooms.