Submitted by throwra322468 t3_ztaoww in relationship_advice
Hey guys I just wanted to give a little update to my previous post linked below.
First I’ll clarify a few things from the last post. I suffered a skateboarding accident at 17 that caused sever damage to my bits and the tubes that run to them and they had to be removed and replaced with prosthetics rendering me 100% sterile. That fact was double checked 3 years after the accident and I was still 100% sterile so there’s no way the child is mine.
I was in the process of transferring her data from her old iPhone to her new iPhone and I saw a photo of a positive pregnancy test in her iCloud. I’m not proud but I did a little snooping and found her conversation with her bff talking about it.
Okay so here’s the update.
After a long and difficult talk with her and her dad, we decided that we’re going to separate and file the papers with the county we currently reside in. We’ll have to be separated for a year before we can legally divorce and we’ll be doing the paternity test when the baby is born. In the meantime we broke the lease, which she paid for, and we’ll have until January 20th to clean out the apartment and after that we’ll go out separate ways for now
My lawyer and I decided it would be best for her to stay on my insurance until after the birth of the baby but I will not be going to appointments nor will I be there when the child is born. As far as I’m concerned we’re done and there’s no chance of reconciliation because cheating is an unforgivable sin in my book.
She fundamentally ruined my trust in her and if we stayed together I’d constantly be wondering if she’ll do the same thing again and I don’t want or need that in my life. If you are unhappy but you aren’t capable of having a discussion with your partner about your feelings to try and come to a resolution that not only benefits you but also your relationship, you’re an emotionally immature person and we’re not compatible together.
I’d like to thank everyone here for your advice and I’d especially like to thank the people who DM’d me with messages of support and stories from their own lives. I’ll try to remember to login to this account after the baby is born or if there are any major updates for an update. Thanks again peeps.