Submitted by ThrowRa00920 t3_ztrl1z in relationship_advice
I’m so fed up with the dating scene! I’m 29 year old black woman and I am in the darker skin complexion and I’ve tried dating apps, bars, work settings, getting to know men in my social circle to possibly be more but it seems like the main issue is how I look. I am overweight and I’ve been told I’m too dark. I cried a little when I saw this mans profile that had all the qualities I look for a man and he is also black but his bio read “swipe right if you light skin baddie”
I have men in my social friend group (mostly black) that talk down about women and they will disqualify them for being too dark and always go for either a light skin girl or a girl of a different race like foreign or white. I feel like black women are the most undesired race
I’m starting to feel insecure about how I look, about my weight any color. I’m trying to lose weight. I know the weight is something I can change but the color isn’t really something I can do about it. I tried natural healthy remedies like milk baths I heard skin lightens from bathing in milk. I tried Greek yogurt masks too. I just feel like crap about myself after being in the dating scene for some time. But now I’m feeling hopeless after being in the dating scene when I just want to find love and settle down