Submitted by ThrowRA-Pomelo-512 t3_zu405p in relationship_advice
So, today I found out purely on accident that my husband has been cheating on me for two months. He was cheating with a coworker. They work overnight so I guess the place tends to be dead.
I honestly feel like I’m going to vomit. Their texts are really explicit and it’s clear they’ve had sex on more than one occasion. I wasn’t sure how to confront him. I asked him if he was happy in our relationship and a few other questions to feel him out and he reassured me positively with each answer. So I got mad at the lying and I told him I knew everything.
He revealed this woman is now pregnant. He said she’s going to get an abortion but honestly I don’t give a fuck.
I asked him why he did it and he said because we got married young he felt like he never got a chance to be adventurous. We got married at 23, dated for almost 3 years before that. We both dated other people before meeting each other.
I honestly just feel so disgusted. Looking back there were signs but because I trusted him so wholeheartedly, I never believed it could happen. We literally have built a whole life together. No kids.
I feel like the obvious thing to do is to leave but when you’ve been with someone so long and have been through so much it makes it hard.
He said he wants to go to counseling and begged me not to leave but idk. We've been together 7 years in total. He asked me what he can do to fix it but I told him I don’t know because I’ve never been in this situation nor did I anticipate it so I don’t know how to fix it. I’m in between crying and then moments where I’m just staring into space. I’m still in shock I guess. Should I give him another chance?
TLDR: My partner of 7 years had an ongoing affair and is begging me not to leave but I'm struggling with if I will be able to forgive him.