Submitted by Lynnabis t3_zuceol in relationship_advice
We live in a middle aged home. 30 years old. It requires maintenance, repairs. The toilet started clogging. We called the plumber....but before the plumber could arrive we tried draino. When we got home from picking up the draino he started screaming at me if it's my "period blood tampons" I'm paying the bill. He was screaming this on the street, as we got out of the car....I'm not sure if neighbour's were around, I didn't look. But there could have been. Draino didn't work so we call the plumber and same thing. Over and over mentioning tampons. I'm having anxiety, googling about tampons (we don't have a septic tank) and praying I didn't cause this. Plumber comes and it's something the city damaged in a neighbour's yard the previous day. He of course yelled at the city worker etc. When I mention to him, calmly, that he yelled at me about tampons and it wasn't tampons...he got angry and said he'd scream at me again if needed.
He has a known anger problem, I'm just usually not a recipient. He's turned on me.
I believe this means it'll only get worse? There was a boundary or barrier broken, I used to be exempt from his anger problem. Now I'm a target. It won't stop until he gets help, will it?