Submitted by ThrowRA19230 t3_zz30p4 in relationship_advice
Here’s and update on my earlier post.
So I took the blunt route that people were recommending and it ultimately turned out well. I was really nervous about embarrassing him but I sat him down and told him that he knows I love him to death and that I wasn’t trying to hurt or embarrass him but I needed to tell him this.
I told him about my past embarrassing experiences with my bad breath and how I was shamed for it and had a fear of having bad breath now because of that. I explained that I was reluctant to tell him because I didn’t want to cause the same fear in him but it was something that was negatively affecting me. I explained to him the fact that his breath is often off putting and smells unsettling and it makes me not want to be as affectionate with him and he took it fine. He said he understood and hugged me and said he was happy that I even brought it up. He said he appreciated my honesty and will start brushing in the mornings too and asked if it was ok for him to ask me for breath checks to let him know if his efforts are working. If it doesn’t work then he said we will figure it out but was overall just happy that I had the courage to communicate that with him.
The fact that he was so sweet about it all made me feel bad and I started crying telling him that I hated that I had to tell him that but I loved him and wanted to be open and honest. He reassured me that it was completely fine. He went and brushed his teeth, came back and let me smell check it(it smelled WAY better!), then we watched some Rick and Morty together and had some great sex! All in all I’d say it was a pretty good turn out!
Thanks for your input on my last post:)