Submitted by ThrowRA12849592 t3_zz7lva in relationship_advice
I'll keep it short and to the point since it's a lot to handle. 2 weeks ago my (22M) girlfriend (20F) of 1 year moved away for college. A few days later she calls me and says that her feelings for me have faded and that she doesn't feel the way she used to, and that she wants to break up. This came to me as a surprise, as I hadn't really felt that there is something wrong with our relationship. I got sad but I didn't have any choice, so 2 days after she broke up with me, I went to her place to pick up my things. When I met her she told me that we regretted her choice and that she had been feeling horrible these days after we broke up, and that she missed me etc.
I decided to give her a chance since she had just moved away as I said, and maybe she felt overwhelmed.
Fast forward to today, we were hanging around and I grabbed her phone to find something in our text conversation, when I say she had sent messages to her ex, about wanting to meet him and stuff. I checked the date and it was the day after she told me all this bullshit about not feeling the same. When I confronted her about it she started crying saying she didn't do anything wrong and she didn't cheat on me, since we had broken up.
I just want to turn to reddit for advice since I'm tired of her bullshit. Yes she technically didn't cheat as we had broken up, but to me this all seems that she wanted to fuck her ex and found the excuse to do it (or made the excuse up herself even, by creating this situation). Even if this wasn't planned, I told her, she showed me that she didn't seen to even care about me, or the relationship we had since, there is no way after breaking up with someone you care about, you are already over it a day after.
Thoughts?