Submitted by Friendly-Ad-6058 t3_10prxvj in relationship_advice
I feel like my boyfriend is selfish in bed or worse lazy. Most of the time I would initiate, do the foreplay and even flirt with him. He doesn’t talk during sex at all or do much foreplay, he’d go down on me once or max twice a month. when I’m on top he barely touches me only my thighs and closes his eyes. He isn’t kissing or touching my boobs. Nothing when I’m on bottom too.. he doesn’t even try to play with my clit. I feel so insecure about my body now because of this, I srsly hate my boobs and I feel like I never want to turn the light on when we are having sex. I found myself so many times fantasising about him touching me or touching my boobs while having sex. I started shutting down after sex and just feeling uncared for.
I love him a lot but I’m constantly irritated by this. I feel like I deserve someone who shows me how much he desires me. Someone who can kiss my neck or boobs, who can be spontaneous and engaged.
I can’t talk to him or he’ll get angry and stressed. He shuts down and starts being sad and I feel so guilty about it. I don’t know how to talk to him but this is making me feel so sad and unwanted.
My bf lives in my flat, I gave him a room so he can have his space. My flat is closer to his work, I know he would love to help me but I don’t want to stress him financially. I take care of cleaning the place and his cloth and help out with food. He basically just (works/showers/eat) and he recently takes the trash.
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