Submitted by throwra42973 t3_102f635 in relationship_advice
Posting here bc I can't even complain about this to my friends w/o them not taking me seriously or thinking I'm crazy for not liking it... I love my gf in every other aspect but she's starting to make me hesitant to have sex with her bc sometimes she likes to keep going after I reach my refractory period. She will keep sucking after I already came, to the point that I had to hit her head with a pillow and pull her hair to get her to stop. When she rides me she will wrap her arms around my neck and pull in tight af or choke me and try to keep going. I had to stand up and pull/push her off me and she will laugh about it or feel satisfied bc she thinks my reactions means she's doing a good job, like she's satisfied with herself.
I told her that it hurts and sometimes I don't have the energy to get her to stop after I just came. She asked me if I was serious and told me that she thinks my reactions are cute and a turn on for her. When I'm wearing my boxers or shorts she will run up behind me and try to stick a finger in my butt thru my clothes and laugh about it when I react. I just want her to take me seriously, and that's only when I'm mad at her about it. She will then feel guilty and try to cheer me up by suggesting to do things that I like. I'm starting to notice that she only pushes my boundaries after a night out or if she's in a really happy/giddy mood, other times our sex life is great. I'm starting to question her sense of humor and if she knows how agitating she is when she does that. I honestly don't know if she's aware. How can I get her to see that I'm deadass serious about these boundaries?
TL;DR: My gf sometimes likes to keep going after I reach my refractory period bc she thinks it's funny and cute. She doesn't take me seriously when I tried having a honest conversation about how it hurts unless I'm mad about it. Need advice on how I can get through to her about it so she stops for good.