Submitted by ThrowRA-cabinet t3_102jbt5 in relationship_advice
(I apologize for any confusion English isnt my first language please ask if you have any questions)
I (26f) am infertile and in all my relationships ive said I didnt want kids I figured it wouldnt matter why since they also didnt want kids. It's wrong I know now but I was and am still insecure in that fact. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and when I met him he said he wanted to be child free so we were compatible. But after him friend died without kids he changed his mind and wanted to have kids with me we argued some but I had thought we put it behind us until I found out he was tampering with his condoms. I was really angry mainly because it reminded me that I couldn't give the man I love a baby so while we were arguing I confessed my lie.
He was upset so he left and I didn't hear back from him until 2 days after which is when he asked to come talk, we had a good talk but ultimately he said he didn't know if this was salvageable (from both our actions) I'm asking you all for advice on how to repair this, I don't care how long it take we are willing to work on it
Edit: I feel like I need to explain 2 things
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I have been raped, I personally do not believe he raped me please stop saying that
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I realized I might have caused some confusion but I do WANT kids I love them I want nothing more then to be a mother but I don't want a surrogate I don't want to adopt or foster I want my OWN babies.