Submitted by THROWRAHuAPPY t3_103ahlj in relationship_advice
Maybe I'm just venting but I'm hoping there is a way to save the marriage.
We were married for 10 years after dating for 4 and our marriage was great for the first 6 years. We have a 9 year old son and a 7 year old daughter.
Right around the 6th year position, she was fired from her work for "poor performance" and she hasn't tried getting another job since. I pretty much do all the chores and taking care of the kids. She complains I don't have sex with her enough (which i try to be enthusiastic considering I do everything for her.) She doesn't even really spend time with the kids much anymore.
Around a year ago, I noticed that she was cheating on me instead of going out to look for jobs like she said she would. I decided to not say anything because I didn't want to damage this further. We did try couples therapy but eventually, she stopped going and my therapist told me to prepare for her to leave me which I didn't want to believe
And then yesterday, she dropped a bombshell in that she wanted to divorce in that I don't do enough for her in regards to chores (even though I do everything like cleaning and cooking in addition to my job) or sex (I get tired after doing everything). She also doesn't want to be involved with our kids lives and wants to be absolved of responsibility
How can I save this marriage?