Submitted by Unhappy-Lead-1140 t3_1058d7h in relationship_advice
Hi, me and my boyfriend met 4 years ago, started dating soon after, we are getting married July 4th and I’m pregnant with twin babies. We have a perfect relationship and I love him with all my heart, he’s a very loving and overall a great person, the only problem is that one of his exes suddenly reached out to him and told him that her 6yo child is his baby. He did a DNA test to confirm and came back positive. I don’t know what to do. I love him and what we have but honestly I don’t know if I can go through all this. I can’t breathe. This happened 3 days ago and we didn’t talk since, he’s trying to discuss the situation with me but I just can’t. Please help me.
UPDATE:
Hey, this got more attention than I thought it would, and I wanna clarify a few things.
- I absolutely do not blame the kid, I know it’s not her fault.
- I also do not blame my fiancée either, he wasn’t aware of all this, I wasn’t angry with him, just shocked and needed time to process. There will be 3 children in the house now, it’s a really big change.
- He will stand up and take responsibility for the child as soon as possible and I’m really proud of him for this.
- To those who were wondering, he waited until the DNA test came back positive to inform me of the situation.
I will wait until tonight to discuss the situation with my fiancée, and I’ll maybe make a update then. Thank all of you who offered good advice and comfort, the comments made me realize how I couldn’t imagine a life without him, raising our kids without him by my side is not something I want to go through. I’ll invite his ex after to talk too about meeting the kid and custody now that he’ll see her regularly.