Submitted by throwRAbrfad t3_10848pc in relationship_advice
I have been dating my gf for a year now and since it was a new year as well as the anniversary of our first date we decided to go on a little vacation. We had a lot of fun, from snorkeling to boat rides in the night to exploring the island on bikes to just lying on the sand and talking. We did visit some nightclubs there and it was there she expressed and interest in a 3some. I asked if she was joking and she said no so I also said no I am not interested in making it a crowd in our bed so her proposal is rejected. She then said we can start with mff, but I again told her in clear terms that its not happening with me.
She was pouting a little but I put it up on being drunk and we left shorty after. Next day again I told her in no uncertain terms that a 3some whether its with two women or two men will never happen while she is with me and she said she completely understands and she will never ask again. I thought I am over it but as it turns out I am not. The reason being that she has had a very adventurous sexual life while my sexual life has been simple as compared to her (and thats what I prefer). But I kept thinking and it occurred to me that maybe we are not as compatible as I thought and she is missing elements from her life before me? And this thought has been a permanent fixture in my mind for some days now. To make matters worse we were discussing moving in together after her lease ends in March but suddenly I am not sure anymore.
I am yet to talk to her about all this, as I thought it would be better to get some perspective before having this kind of talk. Any advice Reddit?