Submitted by ThrowRakiterunner23 t3_10a1i7r in relationship_advice
Hi everyone, I need some advise. My husband and I have been fighting so much the past few months. We had a difficult year last few years with 2 miscarriages and 1 baby who passed in the hospital after birth. We’ve been marriages for 5 years, and no children. We got married when I was 24 and he was 27. He wanted children right away but I wasn’t ready and asked him to wait. Even with the 3 pregnancies I wasn’t completely ready but I knew how much he wanted a baby and I wanted to give that to him. In our recent fights he told me that I’m selfish and didn’t respect him because I made him wait a few years before trying to have a baby and he is making me feel bad about it. When I was pregnant with my first baby, we had a big fight and he is now blaming me for not calming down and stressing my body when he initiated the fight. I’m so hurt that he is saying all this now and trying to blame me for the miscarriage. Even after my third pregnancy, I wasn’t sure if I can go through another pregnancy again mentally and physically but I wanted to do it for him. But now, after hearing all these accusations, I don’t know anymore. I love him but I’m so hurt. Im scared that he will just blame me in the future if we don’t have a baby.