Submitted by ThrowRA59271 t3_10cixe5 in relationship_advice
Edit: So a lot of people are telling me to leave him. I'm not going to do that, as I plan to buy a house, marry and have kids with him in the future. And he is not lazy, immature, or a bum. He works friday and saturday 12 hour shifts. I asked him why he doesnt go when he wakes up late, he says that he doesnt know why. I made this post to seek help as to how to get him to go for his shifts, NOT BASH HIM AND CALL HIM LAZY!
Also I may have messed up how I meant our bills are split up. He pays rent, his credit cards, and his car note. I pay my car note, our phone bill, our car insurances, my credit cards, the internet bill, electricity, and gas. After adding it all up, it comes out to almost my monthly income. This is why it is important he at least comes up with the rent so that we have phones, car insurance, heat, electricity, etc. I took on some of his bills to make it easier on both of us
My boyfriend (24M) and I (25F) have been together for 7 years and have been living together for just shy of 2 years. My boyfriend has been working warehouse/factory jobs since 2019. The issue here is whenever he misses his alarm or doesn't wake up in time, he lets his job know that he's not coming in, rather than just going in late. I tell him that even though he wakes up late he still should go to work, but he says things like "I can just pick up an extra day next week" or "it'll be a point towards my attendance anyway whether I go in or not"(he usually works on a point system for attendance).
I will be honest, I am getting sick of this mentality. He makes $19 an hour and is missing out on a 12 hour shift. We have been struggling financially with rent and I cant help him out as much as I am working part time because I am a full time student. He has lost jobs in the past due to attendance, or the job is not a good fit for him. Ever since moving in together in a different city than our families, he has not kept a job for more than half a year, and I swear if he loses this job because similar past action I will lose it. How can I get him to realize that not showing up to work just because he woke up late is not ideal? Thanks!
Tl;dr: Boyfriend thinks its okay to miss work because he woke up late, how can I tell him this is not a good mentality to have?