Submitted by throwRA123025 t3_10dgkwk in relationship_advice
For context, Ive been in a relationship with this man for four months and honestly, it’s been exhausting. I feel like I can’t be myself.
He gets mad at me for playing my favourite video game, mad at me for spending time with my (18F) best friend, mad at me for receiving dms from randoms who happened to stumble on my social media, even though I block them. mad at me for playing online games with anyone but him, etc.
It’s been exhausting trying to olease him and I’m at my wits end. Well then, doesn’t he go and ask me if we could be in an open relationship. I’m pissed. If I EVER asked for the same thing (not that I would, purely hypothetical) I would NEVER hear the end of it.
He had a fit upon finding out that I sleep in the same bed as my female friends (literally I have always done that) because I’m bisexual. It’s never been weird to me because I know there’s zero attraction between us. He is CONSTANTLY accusing me of cheating and he’s jealous of literally every single person in my life that isn’t him.
Anyway, get this. He asked for an open relationship because he wants to do anal, and I don’t because I have trauma surrounding my “first experience”, which was... unwilling.
I’m just tired. I’m tired of the hypocrisy and constantly tiptoeing around his feelings when he couldn’t give two shits about mine.
So I said in response to him asking me “Sure! But I think I’d get more use out of that than you would.” He responded “What the hell is that supposed to mean.” I said “Whatever the hell you want it to mean, buddy. But let me tell you something if we do this, I do what I want when I want to. Meaning no more whining about me playing my video games, no more getting jealous of anyone in my life, no more throwing a fit when I talk to anyone besides you and lastly, the open relationship goes both ways so you can sob into a pillow when you realize opening the relationship isn’t gonna bring in much traffic on your end.”
Little harsh? Sure. But Ive had enough and I feel like he needed that reality check. But now I’m “emotionally abusive” according to him. Honestly I know y’all are probably gonna tell me to leave and I am very very likely to take that advice.