Submitted by ThrowRAconfusedsoul1 t3_10di0ly in relationship_advice
TLDR: dating girl for 5 years but falling for someone who has so much in common with me. Hey just looking for some help or maybe I just need to write this down. I’ve had a girlfriend for 5 years. We’re serious and have talked about marriage for the last year and a half. We have a apartment and two cats together and for the longest time I couldn’t imagine doing this with anyone else. But then my childhood best friend moved back into town after finishing college. We first reconnected at a funeral for our mutual friend. We went out to the bar and caught up it was just normal friend stuff. And since then she’s invited me over to her place to watch movies. I’ve never hung out with someone for as long as we do in a sesh since having a girlfriend. We’ll hang out for 10 hours just watching movies but we usually just talk the whole time. It’s been almost a month and a half hanging with this new girl two times a week. At some point I started catching feelings for her. I decided I was gonna ignore it because I’ve been in a happy relationship for 5 years so why risk it. But last time we hung it got clearly flirty. I said something that made her flick me and I told her if she flicks me again I’m gonna have to counter balance her hatefulness with love. So she then flicked me again resulting in me tickling her above her knee for some reason. I felt stupid about it and most importantly just bad that I would touch another girl while dating someone else. But a little bit later she flicked me again resulting in me picking her up and putting her across my lap while I tickle her for a while. When I stop we both make eye contact. Im scared for how much I started to like her after that. I go home and since then my girlfriend knows something’s up. She asks if I still love her and if im okay. I answer truthfully saying I do love you so much im just in a rut. I’ve talked to everyone close to me about it and my best friend since I was a kid keeps saying that me and this new girl have so much in common and to just go for it. My dad is saying to give some space from her for a week or two and if she’s all you can think about it do the right thing and break it off without girlfriend and be honest with both the new girl and your current. Me and the new girl are gonna hang today and im wondering should I tell her how I feel and then cut it off for a while to see if she’s still all I can think about. I know im a bad person and im doing my girlfriend wrong. I just wanna be fair to my self and see if this new girl is a better fit. I’ve just never had a girl like this new one make me laugh so hard and forget about everything else. Any advice is appreciated and thanks for coming to my Ted talk.