Submitted by ThrowRAnan t3_10fg0yi in relationship_advice
This girl messaged him the other night point blank saying that she loves my boyfriend in a non platonic way. Bf and I share a phone so I saw the message pop up and let him know what I saw. He seemed kind of surprised but not bothered by it like I was. He said it's normal for people to develop crushes when spending time and having fun together, which sure, I agree with, but love? It makes me feel uncomfortable, and I said I didn't want to go to next game night because I feel like boundaries have been crossed. I feel like I'm going crazy because I'm the only one who finds this really weird and uncomfortable. When I told my bf I'm not going to go, and that I'm not going to force any decision on him, he opted for canceling game night instead (we have it at our house).
I feel like this is a bit of a cop out for dealing dealing it and setting boundaries with this person, and makes me feel like a dick. I said I cod put my feelings aside and that j don't want to ruin things for others, but he insisted he doesn't want me to have to do that. Now he changed his mind and wants to go ahead with it but I definitely don't feel like going if she's going to be there and nothing has been resolved.
I'm confused and just really need some outside opinions. Thanks.