Submitted by ATTTID1123 t3_10g56rg in relationship_advice
I need some help understanding why I feel so uncomfortable that my boyfriend got in a private room at a strip club while he was out in Vegas. To be fair, he asked me if he could go to the strip club and I agreed thinking there would be no touching. But when we talked the next day he told me he touched the strippers basically everywhere except— well that area— but like boobs, ass, body. And there are a couple of things that are making me frustrated but I’m not sure what is justified and what isn’t. -I don’t really think that it’s a 1:1 on men with strippers and women with strippers because I don’t think women get as much out of it as men do generally, i feel like making out with someone else and getting a little handsy or something would be a better comparison— and if I did that with a guy my boyfriend would not be okay and say i was cheating on him… but he can touch two different strippers at a club?? -It makes me feel insecure like he wants to experience other women -I think it’s such a huuuge waste of money. Like we’re always splitting the bills at dinner and whatever, which is fine but now that I know he’s down to spend hundreds at the strip club it pisses me off. -I'm glad he told me what happened and we have a really good relationship but now I can’t stop thinking about it.