Submitted by Immediate-Mind9675 t3_10gwgnp in relationship_advice
To put this into context, we have been dating for over a year now. The year has been amazing and we've done so much in that year. We live apart but see each other around 3/4 nights a week.
The sex has always been great and amazing and my bf was always showing me physical attention! Now in the last month or so I have noticed that he has withdrawn with physical attention and when I have tried to have to sex he says that he tired or something. He has a lot on his mind with his job and family and I know he very stressed so I have given this the benefit of the doubt. I have told him that it's bothering me and I feel rejected and he has apologized and said he doesn't know why he doesn't get aroused. I assume it's stress because he tells me he still wants to be with me.
I guess I'm wondering how long do I let this dry spell continue? His stresses are likely to continue for another 3/4 months and I understand he is stressed but does that mean all physical attention is withdrawn for that long? I want to be a supportive partner but it hurts to be rejected and also the sexual frustration is getting alot! Any advice would help. This has been my first long term relationship in a while so I don't want to ruin it unnecessarily.
Update: thanks so much to everyone for their comments. General consensus is that I should talk to him about how I feel and see how it goes.
Thank you to everyone else for their good points and productive comments.