Submitted by ThrowRAaway03 t3_10jv5v3 in relationship_advice
We have been together for one year and occasionally will record ourselves doing sexual activities with both of our consent. From the beginning, I was clear I was only okay with it if he asked me first and I said yes each time. So far, he has began recording us without my consent on three separate occasions. The first time I was in shock and didn’t say anything. The second I told him he could have asked first and he immediately deleted the video and apologized. He seemed to have felt bad but he still did it one more time after that and I said the same thing and he once again apologized and deleted the video.
I can’t tell if i’m overreacting because afterall he didn’t do it secretly and he immediately deleted them and felt bad after I said something. I just don’t know what to do or how to move forward as I feel really hurt over the situation. I feel him crossing that boundary multiple times broke some trust and i’m not sure how to build that back up. Any advice on the situation is appreciated.
TLDR: Boyfriend began filming us during sex without my consent 3 times. When confronted, he deleted the videos. However, I still feel uncomfortable and upset over the situation and don’t know what to do.