Submitted by Thatgirl629 t3_10kd4qg in relationship_advice
For clarification - I don't find prenups to be a red flag.
***Update: After he confirmed he'd been married before, I responded, "Gotcha" because I wasn't sure what else to say.
He asked, "Do you find that off putting?".
I responded, "I don't find prenups or previous marriage off putting. I find your immediate response to furture marriage being a prenup off putting. And your words describing it negative and jaded sounding."
We will see***
Me F32. Him M40.
I matched with a guy the other day. We've set up a date for this Thursday to meet. We seem to have a lot in common and similar outlooks on life. We've been talking consistently since matching.
Today we were talking more in-depth what we were are looking for and I said although I'm not looking to rush anything, ultimately I'd like to find "my person" and get married some day. This is how he responded:
"Marriage would have to involve a prenup. The contract with the state is cumbersome and I don’t agree with a corporate judge ruling in the interest of the state while it’s truly a personal matter."
It prompted me to ask if he'd ever been married before. He said yes, for three years over five years ago. He has no children, though.
I honestly have no issues signing a prenup. I just find it off putting to mention it in a texting conversation before you've even met.
Should I still meet him? Seems such an aggressive statement to make before face to face interaction.
I don't even know how to respond to him.