Submitted by Ok_Anxiety9527 t3_10l1w5n in relationship_advice
My (36f) boyfriend (55m) and I have been together for 18 years and have often included some bdsm d/s elements into our sexual play. Some of it has been okay, but overall I can't say I am a big fan. A number of things he has been interested in have not been my cup of tea and he's aware of that, but I have compromised a fair amount for him over the years. Lately, in the past year or so, he has been much, much more interested in kinky sex. He has been buying/making TONS of toys and stuff and gets very fixated on certain activities that he knows I don't like. Like, stuff that hurts and keeps hurting after we're done. Because I have compromised in the past, I have sort of backed myself into a corner where he expects things from me that I don't like. When I talk to him about it, he usually gets upset and explains to me how he's not asking for that much, I used to like it, etc. It's hard to argue with him in the moment so I usually give in. I feel trapped and don't know what to do. We have a child so I can't just leave, but the things he does to me are not okay and it's really messing with my mental health.