Submitted by CertifiedRat_ t3_10l7dpo in relationship_advice
We’ve been together for half a year now.
We began as friends, a year ago.
When we got together, I told him that I’ve always shared my thoughts and problems with my mom and also my friends (2 females who are friends of his as well), and will continue doing so.
At the beginning, he was ok with that.
All of the sudden, he told me today that he wants me to stop sharing it with them.
He said that whenever we talk, he is afraid that I’ll share what he says with them.
He suggested that I share it on Reddit instead.
I understand what he feels, but I don’t share because I want to have a chitchat or gossip about it.
I share because ever since I was little, I talked with my mom about everything. I don’t have an older sister or brother, she is the person I also always consult with when I need help.
She’s a teacher, studied psychology, and experienced in these aspects of life. Therefore, I feel the best when I talk with her - she gives me the most useful advices.
Another thing is, I have mild depression. I don’t think it should be an excuse for anything, but it still makes it harder to keep things inside, because whenever I do, my mood goes down, alot.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable in our conversations, but I also know I can't do what he requested me to.
Edit: Two points that are important to mention:
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My mom knows him quite well, I tell her the positive things about him, the way he treats me well, helps me when I’m down, and the fun I find in our shared hobbies. Either way, Her opinion on him wouldn’t change based on what I tell her about him. She knows he’s a very good person and openly said that she would be absolutely ok with marrying such a man. (She doesn’t push me toward it though, we both know I’m still very young and quite clueless about relationships )
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My boyfriend talks with one of my friends sometimes as well about our problems. She’s also 18 but is very reasonable, logical and has good common sense. It’s not like it’s completely one sided. I share much more than him, but he still does share with her.