Submitted by JuliaTybalt t3_10lgix2 in relationship_advice
My biological mother died today. I…don’t really care. I hated her. We didn’t have a relationship because I was given up for adoption at birth, and when I found them as a teenager they lied about the adoption. I have no desire to go to her funeral. My twin sister, Carly, who was raised by her biological parents is very angry at me because I don’t want to go to the funeral. I have less than zero respect for the woman. It would feel like I was invading or lying that I was mourning to go.
I don’t know what to do here. Do I go? Do I say I will and not go? If I do go, how do I avoid being asked why I’m not sad or getting pushed into awkward things?
TL;DR: Bio-mom died. We have zero relationship. Twin sister expects me to go to the funeral. I don’t feel right doing that. Help.