Submitted by throwRAfrgr t3_10me47j in relationship_advice
I said our life and not mine because she says she cannot control me but she never wants to be around him anymore. So if she and I are together she doesnt want to see him. She also says I should really think how good of a friend he is if he is confessing feelings and saying I love you to his best friend's gf and future wife?
I (28m) have been dating my gf (30f) for two years now and honestly its the best relationship of my life. We have discussed engagement and marriage and have also met each other's families. My best friend on the other hand is someone I have known for almost 8 years and even lived with him for 4 years. In fact thats how I met him, as roommates. Till two days ago I never would have suspected that he saw my gf in any other way than his best friend's gf and would be life partner. But yesterday night my gf came home from office and said we need to talk and told me what had transpired.
My gf and my best friend's office buildings are in the same tech park so they occasionally see each other, and thats why when my best friend joined her when she was having tea it didnt surprise her. But what he said surprised her though, he told her that he was harboring a crush on her since I introduced them and he could no longer keep it to himself since we were discussing getting engaged. He said he owed it to himself to tell her, my gf told him to fu*k off and walked away. She also blocked him immediately on every platform. Then she told me. I asked my best friend wtf happened and he admitted but also said he never asked her to cheat on me, he was just confessing his feelings.
My gf on the other hand says there is no point confessing his feelings and he definitely didnt have noble intentions as he claims. She says she doesnt want anything to do with him because he betrayed both of us and disrespected our relationship. I am a little torn here, of course I am angry at him but I also have a lot of history with the guy. Would appreciate some advice. Thank you.
Edit- Thank you guys, I accept I was being a tool in how I responded to the situation. He was my best friend but in this case he behaved like a stranger who had absolutely no concern or respect for my relationship. It will be hurtful to let the friendship go but I know this is what needs to happen. As for my gf I will apologize to her for being a tool and maybe take her for a weekend pampering session. She is the best.