Submitted by Boring-Willow3285 t3_10mnoru in relationship_advice
We have been dating for 5 months. We are currently discussing about me being “more feminine” he believes that man are supposed to be masculine and woman are suppose to be feminine.
Personally, I feel I’m balanced with them both and he doesn’t like that…
In the beginning of our relationship I felt I was becoming submissive on my own but then he threw in he wanted me to be more feminine. I’ve never had that said to me & the way it came off felt forced. So after realizing that I wasn’t “feminine” enough I sorta forced it and made myself unhappy within that same month. We talked about it, I told him about my past life & relationships and that’s why Im the person I am today, he said, he understood and he doesn’t want me to be something I’m not.
Now we’re talking about feminine and masculine energy again.
the conversation came up because (I jokingly said go to sleep) he said he doesn’t have to listen to me I asked him why? and he brought up that he’s the man and I’m the woman. The man always get the last say so.
I asked why it matters to him so much? He told me “Because... it's how it has always been. End of the day the man is the leader, he makes the final call & His woman has to trust him plus his word.” Then he added… “Us men don't like it when women talk or in that rough, tough, and in a masculine type of way. It's a turn off for us. You might say "that's how I am”, I'm saying that you don't have to talk like that.”
I never responded because I don’t know what makes somebody masculine or feminine I never really cared for those things.
I would just like opinions on the topic