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He can still be a great father without being your partner. His parenting skills don't make up for what's lacking in your relationship.

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You’re going to have the same amount of worries and responsibilities as a single guy, maybe even more, except you won’t have a loving and supportive partner to help you through it all.

What kind of things are you wanting to do, exactly?

Just moving out isn’t an option, you want to be single? If it’s not about sex, what’s the aspect of singleness got to do with it?

You could go on a trip alone to a foreign country to get a huge amount of solo time and a “find yourself” experience, just a suggestion.

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Thank you. You’re right.

Sounds manipulative.

End of the day, you have to do what's right for you. You can attempt to remain friends, but a clean break is needed for you. You can't keep living your life in the shadow of this. You can not allow him to play on your sympathies while you continue to not live your own life.

By breaking up. You achieve single life by breaking up. There is no being single but also being in a relationship. You aren't dealing with Schroedinger's cat here

We are on the same page, she agrees I should experience it but we don't know how to achieve this.

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Yea nah my dude it doesn't work this way break up because both of your aren't on the same page

Thank you.

He sounds needy and manipulative and I think you already know what you need to do - end the relationship, letting him know that this isn't working out.

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Be firm - not cruel or crass, but firm and kind, and then block him on everything because he'll just whine and moan and threaten to kill himself (and whether or not he does is not your fault, that's the manipulation).

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I'm sorry you're dealing with that, but the best option is to really disengage yourself from that before he convinces you to stay and you have 3 children in a loveless marriage. Honestly, run, girl! RUN.

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It shouldn’t take one of you cheating, or demanding a divorce for you to be heard & have your feelings taken seriously. Your relationship is broken.

You don’t have to “save” it. You are not compatible any more.

Go ahead with the divorce.

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For now separation is the best.

This will happen again if you decide to stay. He can still be a great father, but he doesnt need to be your husband to be a great father.

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Drama is ok! But I feel like your anxiety is really putting you through the wringer right now, and that sucks.

I don't think you need to necessarily not be in a relationship right now or ever, etc, but I think starting by talking to a professional isn't a bad call, tbh.

Hang in there!

Ah, that was a little dramatic. Just was looking for more than “don’t be in a relationship” - I know that’s a good suggestion sometimes but I was hoping there’d be something more instead of abandon ship when that’s the only problem. Thanks!

Counseling, therapy, and medicating your anxiety are all things that might help you.

Saying things like DOOMED FOREVER are the same kind of anxious catastrophizing that you're doing in your relationship. You need to take a deep breath, and then you need to get some help.

You can change, but probably not on your own, or you would have been able to work through your obsession with your partner's experience by now. It's a relatable insecurity, but many people find it a minor one or move past it. But you're stuck, and it's not healthy for either of you.

I suggest learning how to control your emotions. Learn to let the past be the past. This comes from experience, from self reflection, and from growth.

Honestly, I suggest getting outside of your comfort zone. Visit/ move to another country as a long term resident. Do new experiences, like skydiving, or learn new skills like Scuba diving. Fail. Get up. Dust yourself off. Do it again.