From these comments, you're obviously just as exhausting of a person. Just have a conversation with her. Use words, this isn't some sophisticated, complex issue.

My thoughts exactly haha. Like OP, no one gives a flying hell about tiptoeing around you while paying half the living expenses. Heaven forbid when she’s there you have to clean up after yourself.

So you’re upset because she was there all the time AND because she lied about wanting to be there all the time and moved out temporarily? So much to unpack here.

Fuck that bitch

You txt back - great - You have had 2 months of rent paid living alone and now she wants to come back to the place where she pays 1/2 the rent. You really can’t say anything. If you love living alone that much better perhaps move out when the lease it up.

of course you agree with the one comment that is terrible advice but caters to your entitlement

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But that wasn't what she was asking advice on.

Hence my emphasis on reading comprehension part. She was purely asking "moving forward, how can I communicate this to my roommate".

She didn't ask "how should I have done it earlier" or "what could I have done better".

This is an advice sub (for future actions), not a judgement sub (for past actions)

you came here for advice. & you’re being rude to commenters just because they’re not saying what you want to hear

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I believe this is a tough shit situation. You're not always going to "vibe" with all your roommates. Consider this practice for being a real grown up.

Are you required to walk on eggshells to not annoy her? No. But being a roommate means compromise on both ends. You're going to have to suck up some stuff and so is she.

Yeah you don’t get to dictate how you want to live. If you want to keep your flow, get your own apartment.

This is like complaining that there are other cars on the road getting in your way. Yes, that’s how it works. Is it ideal? No I’d much rather be the only car on the road, it’d make everything much easier and I’d have a nice flow.

Unfortunately, everybody has as much as a right to use the road as I do.

Keep your feelings to yourself. She’s not doing anything wrong. You want to live alone, then get a place by yourself. Can’t afford it? Neither can most of us.

None of us want roommates, we’d all rather live alone. Welcome to the real world.

Because what OP is pissed off about is insanely entitled and whiney. They had no problem continuing to pocket two months of rent money while her friend was away instead of bringing it up way earlier. If they were truly into the vibe of living alone, they should have got ahold of their friend way earlier and moved the hell out to live alone. I had to read the ages because I thought OP and her friend were 18-19 by the shit she’s trying to pull.

Yeah you don’t get to dictate how you want to live. If you want to keep your flow, get your own apartment.

This is like complaining that there are other cars on the road getting in your way. Yes, that’s how it works. Is it ideal? No I’d much rather be the only car on the road, it’d make everything much easier and I’d have an nice flow.

Unfortunately, everybody has as much as a right to use the road as I do.

Keep your feelings to yourself. She’s not doing anything wrong. You want to live alone, then get a place by yourself. Can’t afford it? Neither can most of us.

None of us want roommates, we’d all rather live alone. Welcome to the real world.

Yeah you don’t get to dictate how you want to live. If you want to keep your flow, get your own apartment.

This is like complaining that there are other cars on the road getting in your way. Yes, that’s how it works. Is it ideal? No I’d much rather be the only car on the road, it’d make everything much easier and I’d have an nice flow.

Unfortunately, everybody has as much as a right to use the road as I do.

Keep your feelings to yourself. She’s not doing anything wrong. You want to live alone, then get a place by yourself. Can’t afford it? Neither can most of us.

None of us want roommates, we’d all rather live alone. Welcome to the real world.

I mean, if her daddy pays her rent she probably can’t cut it on her own (without help). I honestly suggest you look for your own place if you can afford it. Why you would want to live with a spoiled princess with control issues is beyond me.

Enjoy having your roommate home 🥴

Sorry, you wouldn’t be annoyed? A whole grown ass spoiled adult has her daddy pay her rent and decides when she can waltz in and out at will as well as have access to OP’s stuff because DaDdY pAiD fOr It? Absolutely not lmao I would’ve moved out in a month

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Just because she has OCD, doesn’t mean she gets to dictate everything. Listen to music in the shower, tell her to kick rocks if she has a problem with it. Maybe you not giving in to all of her whims will cause her to stay elsewhere.

This is a strange post.

No one cares about your flow if she’s still continued to pay her rent. If you like living alone, move out. There’s no reason to communicate you like it better when she’s gone.

You guys clearly have your issues but like you said that’s a whole diff story.

Have a conversation. If she objects to music etc, remind her you pay rent too, ask her what she would consider a reasonable solution, the same when she irritates you. Of course, start looking for your own place, you are realistic enough to know this is not a long term compatible situation for you.

When she asks why you want to live alone be honest, tell her while she was gone you enjoyed the flow you had, she is a great friend, but your styles as roommates don’t mesh. You want to keep her as a friend.

Then you need to move. The fact that you have any expectation of continuing to live in an apartment on her fathers dime absolutely blows my mind. “I was just going to bring it up,” and it’s an insanely stupid thing to bring up.

She’s been paying (her portion of?) rent for two months while gone, that’s not a small amount of money. Even if you were going to try to corner her into staying at her boyfriends or moving out; that is a super shitty thing to do to anyone. Even someone you don’t consider a friend anymore.

Start apartment hunting and get a reality check. It’s hard to believe this isn’t a troll because of the pure audacity.

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