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Reply to My boyfriend (21M) doesn't want me (21F) going out and drinking with my friends on the weekends by ThrowRA_Local3933

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Reply to 23F GF wants me 24m to commit after 2 years long distance relationship by [deleted]

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nightowl2023 t1_ja907xa wrote

Reply to My(25F) boyfriend(36M) doesn't find me attractive. by anonymouswoman906

From what I'm reading I think that the two of you might benefit from some type of couples counseling book. I hate to insert stereotypes but it's very atypical for a male to not be attracted to a woman if he is straight. Regardless of what that woman looks like.... And with you being curvy as you have described yourself it's even harder to believe that you would not be attracted to you.

That's why I'm suggesting maybe there's something that needs to be communicated between the two of you that is not being communicated. For example, he could have some trauma, secret, fear, something has to be causing this mindset.

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LhasaApsoSmile t1_ja900av wrote

Reply to comment by LetsHaveFun_ok in My[21M] gf[20F] of 1y says she feels insecure when I'm talking to other girls or people. by LetsHaveFun_ok

Remember, you are not responsible for all this. She is not a people person, you are. I am not a people person but if I have to I can talk to anyone. This tooks decades.

The jealousy, ideation, and self harm are all signs that she needs someone to talk to. A lot of therapy is not "fixing you". Most of it is figuring out how you can be you in the world. How to adapt. There is another part where the therapist does call you out and point out that your opinion or thoughts about a situation are probably off and you need to re-orient your thinking. They usually do it in a nice and non-threatening way.

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