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I think a much bigger issue here is kind of losing yourself in motherhood and not getting any time away from it all, forgetting yourself as a person with hobbies and interests outside of the parenting. How often does your wife see friends, goes shopping or to the SPA, or engages in sports or activities outside the home ?

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>make sacrifices if I need to

There's a difference between compromising, and compromising yourself

A friend of mine is more comfortable chatting than talking. I am the oppossite as I feel more comfortable talking than chatting.

Although I am not sure what you guys need but LDR's really require more patience and effort than usual and you wikl both have to cooperate to get it right.

Carrying the heavy labor ebbs and flows during relationships because life events.

Yes ma’am. Good luck and enjoy your youth while you have it. It is a precious and short-lived commodity.

Yes, that’s also very true, I think I will talk to him. Thank you

So what are you wanting advice on? Are you wanting a sexual partner outside of your relationship or just asking how to navigate a conversation about sex with your fiancé?

That’s what not being honest with him will do. Brutal honesty upfront will almost always result in less pain. It’s uncomfortable for the one being honest, but realistically, this discomfort is what you’re protecting yourself from. Not him from hurt.

You're sexually and fundamentally incompatible. This isn't a sustainable dynamic for either of you, long-term.

Honestly, I don’t know, I’m just so confused. I want to be honest with him, since we’re always very honest to each other, but I really don’t want to hurt him.

It’s weird that you’d do this given how perfect the bf is. Are you being realistic with yourself? If you love him be open with him. If you have to let him go to experience whatever then go for it. If you want to be with him for the rest of your life, truly, then you have something that many others wait a lifetime for. Maybe it’s true that you just haven’t experienced enough yet, but what is “enough?”

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I think you answered the what and why of whats going on.

>I soon realised though that he was more articulate through texts than via call. He was more himself because he was able to think at his pace and frame his sentences better. We were finally able to have a conversation.

This is a more natural flow to him. It makes him happy.

I get it. I’m like your wife- I don’t do the words of affirmation thing, and that’s what my husband needs. He has to remind me, too, since it’s so counter to my personality (which is dysfunctional, don’t get me wrong). What’s easier for us is for me to remember to thank him every so often, which often transitions to compliments.

I think you would both tremendously benefit from couples counseling- I think you both just need to learn to hear each other and speak in the same language. Not to be cliche about it.

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I think that's the real challenging part about LDRS.

The entire fulfillment and survivability weight is placed on couples ability to converse. You two don't have access to other means to bond over, dates, cuddling, movies, etc.

Couples can, and often do run out of things to talk about. But doing activities together is a way to combat this. There is always a new experience to be had and something new to chat about. Unfortunately, you don't get the same luxury in LDR.

Sounds like there is some unhappiness beginning to develop... I would ask these of you:

• Do you two have realistic plans of moving to each-other?
• How often do you get to see each-other in person?

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This relationship basically failed to launch. You've been together a few months and barely bothered to have sex.

Maybe you're just not that into each other.

Thanks for the note, its good advice. I try to tell her at least once a week how much I appreciate her, and how great of a mom she is. But I think your message was a good reminder that sometimes people just need to vent and a partner is supposed to be there to listen and support. Your analogy of the office and the validation is super insightful.

I also think I probably need to be more vocal about the validation and appreciation that I need. She is not one to give out thank yous and appreciation frequently and I am definitely someone who craves validation, so I probably just need to express that. But asking for appreciation sometimes defeats the positive impact it has so I stopped reminding her.