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Break up with him and find a better boyfriend who wants you in the ways you WANT to be desired and loved.

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Are you really falling in love? Or is that loneliness (horniness) talking?

Has she given any real indication that she wants to spend (unpaid) time with you? She might just be stringing ypu along emotionally to keep her as a paying customer.

Do you have a savior (save-her) complex? Thinking you will "rescue" her from her current lifestyle? And she will be forever "grateful" to you in return? If this turns into a real relationship that makes for a huge power imbalance.

Do you even know the real "her" behind the escort? Or is she just playing a fantasy role of who you want her to be?

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You want to date someone who get money from being with other men?

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4 months isn't really that long of a time to be together. She probably just want to play around some more.

lol that's true

I would help with everything from cooking (I actually enjoy cooking) and cleaning, to anything else required / needed.

If she needs a day to unwind, I'll take over everything so she can relax and have some relax time. True teamwork.

People change. Especially at your age - you were kids when you picked each other out, so finding out you're actually not a good match now is rough but also not very surprising. With that said, sometimes people (especially young people) say things they don't genuinely mean when they're very emotional, so I do have a "use your words" recommendation before you fall too far into the pit of despair:

If these changes are recent, it's probably important that you figure out where this is coming from for your own sake. It might hurt more but it might also turn out to be something solvable. You need to sit down with him and, while staying as composed and neutral as you can, discuss where things are and where you both see them going. If he's fine, this is over and it's time to let it go. If he says he's still in this with you, share that you're feeling like he's pulling away and ask where it's coming from. Share how hurt you were by what he said and find out why he said it - no one ever says things like that without there being some hint of something genuine behind it. Be as vulnerable, calm, curious, and accepting as you can be, and do whatever you can to not be defensive, and it should help him feel like he can open up better than anything else is going to. Discuss solutions or paths to solutions for anything that does come up. I will warn you that it's an incredibly hard thing to do and you never know what's going to come out of it - you could come out with both of you having personal growth goals and maybe some new communication strategies and you could be stronger than ever or you could find out that something has happened to end this relationship for good that colors your view of way more of the relationship than you're expecting or anywhere in between.

Best of luck - I hope you end up where you need to be in the end.

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Well what would house work/ childcare look like?

Alot of men say they want a 50/50 relationship, but expect their partner to come home from work and take care of the kids, make dinner, wash the dishes, do some cleaning, pack theirs and the kids lunch, do the meal planning and do the grocery shopping, etc. Etc. While they just NEED a few bours after work to unwind

>I’m just trying to understand what I did wrong that made him lose interest in me

Simply put, you did nothing wrong.

Things change. People change. Emotions change.

It's not a bad thing, but it is life.

You are both still so young, and who you are at 19 is different to who you were at 16. And who you are at 19 is going to be different to who you are at 22.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship, then you can take control of the situation for yourself and end it.

Focus on yourself, and you will eventually find someone who wants to be with you.

100% not shallow, my guy. If there is such a big inequality that it causes you discomfort or resentment, then it wouldn't magically get better with time.

I dumped a girl I was crazy about because she had zero career ambition and the stress that came from the thoughts of me supporting the both of us and a future family on my salary alone was enough to scare me off.

This is an AITA post and will probably get removed. But: Breaking up with someone because you want a partner who is ambitious is not shallow. Seeking validation from idiots on Facebook is shallow.

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Thank you :))

This is so helpful I appreciate you being non judgmental too. I know a lot about attachment theory because I am a psych major and I know I could definitely benefit from therapy as well. I think the toughest thing relationship wise is that me and my boyfriend come from such different families. My family is kind of broken and we are not close and used to have a lot of resentment and fear of each other, while his family is extremely close and loving and they do family zoom calls to check in on each other and talk about anything. He definitely has more solid communication skills than I do so when something bothers him he voices it, but when something bothers me I shove it down until I either explode or express it as a "joke" aka my sarcasm.