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Meh, you're 32 not 17.

And the gap's just 9 years. My stepmother is 12 years younger than my Dad and they've lasted decades.

And no one's taking sexual advantage of anyone.

And you're both in the range for adoption should you want to start a family.

I can't see any downside as long as you're in to each other.

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I wish I can tell you specifically what to do, but I believe the answer lies in the needing of a new nature.This isn't a change of mind, persay, or something that can be taught. He needs to see something in you before he desires it for himself.

I didn't reference that verse just as an intellectual thing, but because I had to have my "darkest" moment in my life as well before reaching out. I also tried many vain things beforehand as well before I reached out.

And I met Him. My life has never been the same before. There is a reality and once you have that experiance for yourself....you too won't be the same.

Get right with Jesus first....then let things happen the way it needs to happen.

Whatever you do don't make a quick decision from here on out.

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She has every right to her body but you have every right for your boundaries. There are plenty of girls that won’t dress like that and will align with your ideas. But only pushing the issue further might make you seem controlling.

If she has not done anything wrong and has not really posted nudes, then bikini pictures are quite normal. You have to tell her how you feel but also accept the answer she gives.

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you either break up with her over it, or you stop trying to control her.

Sorry dude, you don't own her. If it bothers you this bad, the best you can do is leave her.

In this case, you are in the wrong. You sound overly controlling and petty. Yuck.

Thank you so much for your suggestion. I'll try to plan something when I'm less infectious and we can enjoy it more. I really appreciate you offering your own personal experience as well. :)

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Why are you still with this pig when he’s been treating you like shit for SEVEN fucking years? Why have kids with him?

My bf is like this now so I know how you feel. It’s definitely depression. Something that always helps now is taking each other outside. On a drive to Walmart, to a playground with the kids, for some reason being in the warm natural sun just uplifts everything and having a conversation with quality time is so much more appealing! When you are feeling unappreciated it’s important to come together in a neutral setting and lay everything on the table.

This is what I'm most worried about. I'm worried I'm going to have to do something drastic like threaten divorce before he'll change and take me seriously. I just don't know why it's come to this.

You could just agree when you move his had on to you in the future it’s go time, you could tell him to kiss your neck or have phrases that mean you are in the mood “let’s have sex”, “get your arse upstairs, I’ll be up in 5 min”, “me snu snu now!”, etc

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Hah, that's basically what my parents said. Thanks for the answer.

There is a certain point where a person's laziness becomes internalized as "I just need directions."

I would say, for the sake of the relationship, to give it one chance. Write out a list of chores, expectations, and etc. Present them to your husband and say "these are the things we both need to do to keep things going" which should be a subtle hint saying "this is what needs to be done for me to stay."

If he doesn't improve after that, then he never will and you'll have to ask yourself if you're okay raising 2 kids and one giant baby.

Its a tough call, but if you are financially and emotionally capable of leaving, then you may have to.

Lmao you're 32, age gaps should no longer be a factor unless you're dating younger.couple that with your less than 1% chance of finding an asexual partner. Take what you can get.

Tell his wife you had fun on the trip and she must trust him a lot to be comfortable with him sleep alone in a room with a single female friend.