Because he sees the person behind the flaws. We all have something about us that isn't perfect. It sounds like he wants to comfort you. This is a guy I wouldn't toss aside. He thinks your special, and that's definitely worth something. Sometimes it takes another person's perspective to see what makes us special.

I wouldn't start dating right now as I think you're not ready. I think you need to determine whether or not you're trying to force something that isn't there because of your grandpa. I suggest therapy.

If you’re in the US, you could try United Way 211 and they can refer you to resources local to you. You’ll need an attorney and employment help. Most women’s shelters have resources for that.

I think you've been through a lot that has put your sense of self worth way down in the gutter.

Your grandfather from the sounds of it is a cruel cruel man you'd be better off never speaking too.

There are people out there who will see you and value you, you might not seem "special" but to them you are.

Get away from your grandfather and get yourself into therapy.

His comment tells you all you need to know. What else does he do to keep people from looking at you?

Sounds like your GF is in a throuple and you are the side piece. Not a healthy relationship where your boundaries are continuously violated.

You just posted this same thing a week ago. You aren’t dating. He’s a friend and a nice one. But. Please see a therapist so you will be ready when someone comes along that is interested romantically.

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Okay. I would want someone who wanted me on their one free night. But that’s me.

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I'll be the first to give this community's standard advice. Break up. Throw the whole woman away.

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If that’s true, the last thing she needs is a new boyfriend. We get therapy after leaving an abusive relationship. But. It appears she may have lied.

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I got the ick from him just by reading this. Dump him and live your life!

He literally just said he’d meet up with you. If he’s that busy and is still making time for you he’s obviously interested...

You're 32. Age gaps mostly matter if the younger one is in a vulnerable position. I'd say you're mature enough to make your life choices.

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Man says he's interested and is excited to see you.

Woman convinces herself he isn't interested, despite all facts otherwise.

I'd tell you I weren't interested in more than hooking up if I saw this.

Ehh. I don't have children but I'd say "don't stay for the kids".

They'd be miserable if you're miserable anyway so might as well seek haooiness elsewhere.

Now, marriage always deserve a second chance so counselling is good. But be prepared to accept things as they are if he's not gonna put efforts into cooperating.

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That’s sad, but i think he does.

You can be assertive and direct, without actually saying the words. This one's on you I'm afraid. starts kissing after a few mins, "let's take this upstairs". Just like that. If bro still doesn't get the hint, then I can agree with you that's he's an idiot, otherwise this just sounds like you're confusing tbh.

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