Welp, you need to get your shit together. Picture or no picture, you have a narrow window of time if in fact you want to terminate.

You only have so long until you cannot have an abortion (laws vary). Go to/look up Planned Parenthood for unbiased support and guidance. If you do have the baby, you'll have to decide whether to keep it or put it up for adoption. If you do decide to deliver, you need an OBGYN, pre-natal care, if you smoke or drink you must stop, etc. Look up whatever maternal leave your job allows so you can get a sense of how that's going to play out.

What your boyfriend thinks is the least of your worries right now.

Good luck OP.

You just be honest with him. You thought you could go through with it, but at the clinic froze and now aren’t so sure. He deserves to know the truth. It’s a pregnancy, not something you can pretend isn’t happening.

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If he's fairly laid back and is pretty average when it comes to things in general... I'd be really worried about your future together. Is he going to have the 'less ambitious' approach when it comes to household tasks when you live together?

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You start with I didn’t get the abortion. Do it in person. He deserves to know this and he sounds supportive. It’s his baby too. Congratulations 🎈

That’s a tough spot. He’s probably having some feelings too since you two haven’t talked.

If you are certain that you want to pursue this pregnancy, you need to just tell him. But that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy or that he’s going to stick around necessarily.

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Maybe. How should I respond?

Monogamy is imperative when the relationship started that way and 1 person still wants it. It's a hill worth dying on. You are well within your rights to basically say, "if you pursue a romantic or sexual relationship, emotionally or physically with anyone else, I will consider you to be a cheater and this relationship will be over!"

There are "ethical non-monogamous" relationships (like polyamory) out there but those only work when everyone wants it, everyone will benefit emotionally and physically and in all other ways from it, otherwise this is a nightmare in the making. If you cannot see yourself pursuing sexual or romantic relationships with other women, while in a relationship with your gf, and be supportive and happy with your gf while she dates and fucks other guys, then you should absolutely die on this hill.

Do not go there. You clearly don't want it.

Five months is much too soon and you need to keep your place because of the very favorable pricing.

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Way too soon. Way. Too. Soon.

Don’t give up your place just yet.

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I 100% will be honest. I guess I was just hoping there was a better way to say it... Like some verbiage I could use that still makes him feel cared for rather than it being his fault somehow. He tends to take any issue and make it his fault, even if I'm apologizing or being accountable too

It's been 5 months. Slow down. Don't move in together.

Don’t have sex you don’t want to have. And it’s not healthy to spend all of your free time with a partner.

It seems to me that you should forget dialing it back and just end it.

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By dial it back I mean the part where I said "slow back down to more of a talking phase" rather than an official relationship.

Girlfriend duties as in: spending all my free time with him, having to be intimate, etc. Essentially his expectations for me as a girlfriend

This is weird. Its normal to have a crush outside of your relationship. It's not healthy to act on it or to emotionally invest in this crush. You made a commitment to be with each other and she's emotionally violating that whilst assuaging her guilt with radical honesty with you.

This is no good in my eyes and reeks of disrespect.

You wanna fuck this guy? Fine go ahead we're done, you just threw away the last 2 years for a casual fling, hope you enjoy it and will be able to handle me completely ignoring your attempts to restart us when it comes crashing down.