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swild89 t1_jad115v wrote
Only you know what you’re comfortable with and shouldn’t push yourself. If this is something both of you want to do, clear boundaries and discussion before after during etc
throwrajnbg OP t1_jad0w0j wrote
Reply to comment by UsuallyWrite2 in I(F21) need to tell my boyfriend(M26) that I didn't get the abortion by throwrajnbg
Yeah. We're usually very good at this---communication. I feel at ease to tell him practically everything, but this time around it wasn't the case. I will tell him, and especially by tomorrow.
hashslingingslashern t1_jad0tlr wrote
Reply to My [22M] GF [22F] of almost 4 YEARS is considering breakup after she found me complimenting a girl's hair on Snapshat, what should i do. by Real_Secret7770
Sounds like she is trying to make you guilty lmao tell her ass to calm down or you'll welcome her leaving. She's being manipulative and maybe you should have gone through her phone too since she appears to be deflecting hard.
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Reply to My [22M] GF [22F] of almost 4 YEARS is considering breakup after she found me complimenting a girl's hair on Snapshat, what should i do. by Real_Secret7770
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throwrajnbg OP t1_jad0cbj wrote
Reply to comment by RaiseIreSetFires in I(F21) need to tell my boyfriend(M26) that I didn't get the abortion by throwrajnbg
It wasn't weeks, it was 4 days ago. I said I made the appointment weeks ago.
throwrajnbg OP t1_jad07m4 wrote
Reply to comment by trishsf in I(F21) need to tell my boyfriend(M26) that I didn't get the abortion by throwrajnbg
He is supportive and very loving. I just wish I knew his stance on it, what did he want me to do? In this case, I would like for his opinion to influence my decision, despite him thinking it was best if it didn't. I thought so too, but that was before.
throwrajnbg OP t1_jad020v wrote
Reply to comment by WildlifePolicyChick in I(F21) need to tell my boyfriend(M26) that I didn't get the abortion by throwrajnbg
>Welp, you need to get your shit together. Picture or no picture, you have a narrow window of time if in fact you want to terminate.
95% of me is saying that I won't get the abortion anymore. The only other 5% is based on how my boyfriend reacts. So the next step is ultimately telling my boyfriend because I already know how I feel about this, which I will do soon.
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Ingwall-Koldun t1_jaczie2 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in My (24F) BF (26M) insists he walk on the outside of the path because he doesn’t want people looking at my ass by [deleted]
If he doesn't exhibit any other signs of possessive controlling behavior, he might have been trying to be funny
non_avian t1_jacz5sl wrote
Reply to My(33M) Girlfriend(35F), and her Girlfriend's(33F) Boyfriend(34M) is Causing Issues in Our Relationship by ThrowRA_1213141516
Well on the bright side, it'll be harder for her to see him now that he's fled the country
NewBayRoad t1_jacz0dl wrote
Reply to comment by SomeJokeTeeth in My gf (20F) told me (24M) about guys who asked her out on date but she added them on IG and liked their pictures. by david_antas
I agree. I wonder if it is worth bringing up her need for the attention and addressing what it could lead to.
RaiseIreSetFires t1_jacywe2 wrote
Just tell him you made your choice to keep your baby and start preparing to be a single mom. Child support will take awhile to kick in, if he signs the birth certificate, then a court ordered paternity test takes longer so, I hope you're housing and financially stable. Save as much as you can now for childcare so you can return to your job as soon as possible.
Hopefully he'll step up and you can properly co parent. Even though you have made this choice without any communication or discussion, have lied for weeks, and have given him the silent treatment. (All great signs of a truely responsible, mature, intelligent adult that should be trusted to raise a functional human) The sooner you stop with the games, put on your big girl panties, and tell him the more you can plan.
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Reply to I (28 F) just found out that my boyfriend (32 M) cheated in his last relationship. by Ok-Construction3928
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abnormalaf OP t1_jacyqiq wrote
Reply to comment by UsuallyWrite2 in Anyone have success dialing back a relationship? (28 F 30 M) by abnormalaf
Hmmm. I have a lot to think about
WildlifePolicyChick t1_jacyhqg wrote
Reply to Moving in together 35F 30M by Sofluffy27
NO. How many posts do we see here that start off with 'I moved in with my SO within X weeks/months of dating and gosh now it's a nightmare and I'm stuck."
Never move in with anyone when you can only measure your time together in months and not years.
Just don't. Do not DO NOT give up your great apartment or the financial security it affords you.
You hardly know this guy. Don't be a fool.
The_bookworm65 t1_jacy3fw wrote
Reply to After a 2yr relationship my gf (26F) tells me she has feelings for another dude… so I (27M) am very confused. by ThrowRA537153
As you are not interested in being with anyone else, are you willing to have half a girlfriend. Yes, she can love you both. But there are only 24 hours in each day. Personally, I’d say we aren’t compatible and be done. In a monogamous relationship when you start to feel something towards someone else, you avoid them and focus on your partner until your feelings for your partner are strong again. Find someone that wants and treasures you and only you.
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KitPipin t1_jacxl4b wrote
Reply to my wife F 50 wants to emigrate to Canada and I MtF 40 want to stay in the UK, what do we do? by [deleted]
When did you reach that agreement?
When did you get your dream job?
PolackMike t1_jad17bm wrote
Reply to My 25M boyfriend wants me 25F FUCK WITH ANOTHER MEN by Ok-Candidate7727
That's up to you. I'm in an open marriage and that is something that my wife and I are both into but that sort of thing requires both people to be onboard and desiring it. If you don't want to do it, don't. It's really as simple as that.
If you decide it is something you'd like to do, make sure you have some long conversations about boundaries. Hopefully he's not using it as a way to get to sleep with other women as well.
Tread carefully and only do what you want to do.