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Dont139 t1_jad72su wrote

Reply to Should I (26F) ask my ex (27M) for the money back that I paid for his tuition? by [deleted]

Nope.

Unless you had an agreement, like he would pay you back, or put the funds down towards your common future in form of payment, you shouldn't

You took a chance. Being with someone is accepting the risk that it may not work out in the hand, but making the bet that it will. You gave money betting that you would stay together and marry and spend your life together. But you didn't. If you gave money because you wanted to help him, well you did. You being together or not does not change that.

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hackberrypie t1_jad6vzz wrote

Reply to comment by OPragingpanda in My ex(23F) and I (22M) recently broke up over a miscommunication by [deleted]

Maybe she didn't understand why and was trying to justify it to herself?

I don't know, of course, and I'm sorry that you're going through this. It doesn't seem reasonable to break up over a miscommunication when she noticed you were putting in effort. She could have just clarified or given you a chance after she clarified. So that's why it makes me wonder if there's something different/deeper/more confusing going on.

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Tricky_Country_2262 t1_jad67dk wrote

Reply to comment by Stunning-Profit8876 in (M35) ghosted by his now exwife (F24). by [deleted]

I guess it’s like that thing that people say. Which probably means it’s bullshit. But anyways… If you love something let it go if it comes back to you at yours forever. I thought that the story we were living. Her sister has mental illness also and lives with the family in Vietnam. People don’t recognize mental illness in Vietnam. No medication and no therapy. Her sisters life is really sad. She got married off to the neighbor, the farmer boy to get rid of her. Thinking that that’s the life that my ex could’ve had, there’s no way I could’ve allow that to happen.

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art_vandelay676 t1_jad63is wrote

Reply to Should I (26F) ask my ex (27M) for the money back that I paid for his tuition? by [deleted]

OP, was there ever any discussion of the terms regarding the tuition? As in, did you ever make it known to him that this was not a gift, and he was to pay you back? Sadly, it sounds like he used you for as long as it took him to get what he wanted until he found an exit and no longer had use for you. If you did tell him it was not a gift and he was to pay you back, you can take him to small claims court. Anyone willing to take a large sum of money, like your ex did, and never think about some kind of reciprocity uses people like he did to you. You may want to get things in writing, not be so open with your kindness and protect yourself a little better. Tuition is expensive AF in many cases, so I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

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Tricky_Country_2262 t1_jad5u7a wrote

Reply to comment by TimelyFortune in (M35) ghosted by his now exwife (F24). by [deleted]

She is beautiful, and we were in love. When things were good we had a really nice life together. She helped with my kids. We support each other through school. This girls my soulmate brother. My best friend. You don’t give up on people you love because they’re broken. That’s how I felt and how I still feel.

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