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The two guys are brothers. I'm older than them, I have no interest. Their sister is my classmate but she moved far away. I'm not going to overnight camping with them. I'm joining them for group events with 6+ people.

I’d expect him to have gotten the message but if he didn’t with a boob, he will definitely get the message if you place his hand downstairs instead.

Girl…… you need to break this cycle. You have a child and this crazy on/off relationship you have with ex is just not healthy at all and your child is seeing all this. I am saying this as a mother myself. This person you claim to love is not healthy for you. He leads you on and showed he can’t be trusted. He is giving you all these signs not to let him be in your life. Ask yourself why are you letting him get in? Break it off and focus on you and your child.

Fair or not one or both of those guys wants to sleep with you and your boyfriend knows it. That's a struggle for any insecure young man.how will you react if one of them starts hitting on you during an overnight camping trip. What if one of these guys is an old flame. Why would a woman want to go camping overnight with two guys she hasn't seen since high school. Who knows what other questions he can dream up. I'm not saying don't have friends, just a few things to consider.

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I had completely forgot about the situation

NO, you didnt

Seems that you love the drama. Like you cant get enough of the disrespect and the lies. You just keep going back for more.

The cycle will continue with your child unfortunately.

The only person you should be angry at is yourself. He has shown his true colors for 5 years. YOU keep making the choice to stay with him, get back with him, believe him, trust him etc. WTF up. Stop blaming your situation on him. This is all your choice. However you child has no choice and this is what you are teaching them.

Personally, I wouldn't keep around someone who's this cavalier about playing with fire. Why invite guys over to her apartment for drinks if they were already at a bar unless they wanted to do a little more than drink? Think about, dude.

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Not a single line you wrote makes me think she respects you or your relationship. She’s mislead or lied to you about her actions with this guy. Going away without you is just horrid. What was her excuse?

I’m sure others will say the same. Probably time to give up on her. She doesn’t want to save the relationship.

October of 2021 and we got back together in May of 2022

That's a long break.

How about stop dating criminals and expecting them to behave appropriately?

I am a cautious sort. My partner and I moved in together after 18 months: I did not give up my own apartment. (In fairness, it became my work studio.) We got engaged: kept the apartment. We got married: kept the apartment FOR A YEAR LONGER.

All of this is to say: why the rush? Moving in together to save money is a terrible reason, especially when you both can afford your own spaces. The fact that you took to reddit to ask the question says that you know it's not the wisest choice.

Bide your time. Get to know him. And whatever you do, always maintain credit in your own name.

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>So have you considered how this move is going to impact them?

I'm worried that it could confuse and unsettle him as he has an ASD diagnosis (high functioning though).

>Would your child be able to continue their schooling like "normal" in 2026 That I'm not sure about. I think the kids start later in Canada though

>At the same time, your wife made it clear to you that moving to Canada is a must to her....

Yeah, I feel responsible as she was living in Canada when we started dating (initially a long distance relationship) - so from the outset I knew that at some point I might have to live in Canada at some point.

She has found the female equivalent of the red pill on her social media’s. let’s call it the pink pill. Good luck

Yeah there's literally no additional advice that we could all give you besides-- Tell him. What you were knowing that you have to do anyway. Where do you start? Literally that you didn't go through with it. That's where you start.

But this is pretty heavy conversation you're about to drop on him. However he reacts initially, give him a little space to get his thoughts and feelings in order. You might not be able to have the full conversation All at once with a United decision right then

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I think you should book some time with a therapist and get out of this crazy cycle and into a healthier space for yourself and for your child.

Then I think you know what you need to do. 🙂

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How do I know if I’m a mess or not?

If only 5% of your decision will be influenced by your boyfriend, that's de minimus. It's a consideration not worth considering if you are 95% sure you are going to have it. That said, you'll have to tell him of course because he/you two will need to figure child support and custody (if you decide to keep the baby), or giving up parental rights (if you put it up for adoption). You'll also BOTH need attorneys.

Get an appointment with your PCP as soon as possible if you need to find an OBGYN. Tell boyfriend, "BF, I decided against the abortion. I'm going to have the baby."

No she already had my number, I had given it to her almost 2 months ago when she needed help with something when I wasn't in the office.

I've tried saying this to her as well. I tell her how immature it is and she does nothing to work on it. I'm about communication, but she tells me it's pointless to talk to me. She feels as if she has to dumb things down for me! I promise you, I am not a dummy. When she's upset, she just ignores me when I try asking a question or apologizing, she just shuts down and shuts me out and frankly she just leaves without saying anything. It hurts every time. She just leaves instead of trying to talk or resolve anything. I feel abandoned every time she does it, yet she still does it.