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herdingcats2020 t1_jadm0i6 wrote

Reply to My (32M) wife (34F) claims I am disrespecting her and eroding trust. I don't know what to do. by [deleted]

I would have a pretty major issue if my partner was doing that. You are airing your private business with her to...a LOT of people. They now know intimate details about your relationship without her concent. A good compromise would be checking with her first. Narrowing it down to 1-2 people you talk to or just a therapist you can go to for information. I understand her feelings on this. I wouldn't want my private things with my partner just...everywhere. Because whether they tell you or not that they won't talk about it guaranteed that some of the people you've gone to have then told other people. Because that's what people do.

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BoringAd2211 t1_jadluca wrote

Reply to comment by BriefHorror in My (32M) wife (34F) claims I am disrespecting her and eroding trust. I don't know what to do. by [deleted]

No need for the edit, you're exactly right. I accept appropriate blame for my abuse, because I ignored the red flags and compromised my values/boundaries all too quickly.

You're probably right about me not knowing where the line is. I was single for years before getting with my wife. I think if we go to couple's counseling, it will make her more reliable in going. And I think she'll make the effort while we're there.

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Reply to My (35F) husband (37M) pressures me to have sex when I don't want to, is this pretty common? by [deleted]

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the-mirrors-truth t1_jadl6yf wrote

Reply to comment by Bigdaddiie in I’m 29 (M) dating a 36 (F). Parents and brother won’t accept the fact I’m with her and keep telling me when she ages it’ll be a problem. They won’t hear me out at all. by Bigdaddiie

I just want to point one more thing out though.

As you mentioned you didn't want to be disowned by them. Perhaps, if they're willing to disown you a grown man, over a relationship of your choosing than you value them more than they value you. Just some food for thought.

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herdingcats2020 t1_jadki40 wrote

Reply to My (26m) fiancé (26f) is considering leaving because of an argument last night and I don’t know what to do by [deleted]

That seems like a good bit of an overreaction if just that comment on the photo and falling asleep when she asked for space. All I can think is just apologize again that you're sorry your comment upset her and that you'd been drinking and didn't mean to fall asleep. That you just wanted to give her space until she was ready to talk. That you're sober now and would really like to talk to her. That you love her. Then just give her space maybe. Unless you left a lot out somehow I personally don't see how it got blown up but who knows.

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deemsterporn t1_jadkfhw wrote

Reply to What usually happens in the mind of a woman after a close friend tells her he has feelings for her? M30 F28 by [deleted]

Here's the truth- women know. I'm aware every straight male I'm friends with would 100% sleep with me given the chance or opportunity. Some are just more respectful than others.

If she had any type of romantic feelings for you she knows it can and will be reciprocated if she wanted to.

Best case scenario she'll think good for him for being honest maybe now he can get over it and move on to someone who feels the same. Worst case she'll think it's selfish and the friendship will fade.

Any time in the past I've 'confessed' feelings for someone when I'm not positive they feel the same it's been regrettable at best and humiliating at worst.

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