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Pk2216 t1_jadodb3 wrote

Reply to [M35] I want to take dancing lessons and go to dance nights. My wife [F33] says that I either go with her or never go. Even if she decides to never go herself. by ThrowRAma12345

She does not get to decide if you continue.

If she doesn't like it, that's fine. She doesn't want to do it, that's also fine. It is absolutely unfair and uncalled for that she says you're not allowed if she doesn't like it.

It's not an argument. It should be precedent that you're allowed to have hobbies that your wife does not share. Draw the line and hold it.

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YarnAndMetal t1_jadod5i wrote

Reply to My (35F) husband (37M) pressures me to have sex when I don't want to, is this pretty common? by [deleted]

Sex is something you shouldn't be pushed into having. Either you want to do it in the moment, or you don't, but the second he started taking from you when you were clearly not into it, he crossed a line.

You are not having a midlife crisis. You are recognizing that you don't want what you have anymore. More, you don't have to be married to have a complete life.

Take some time and make a list of the pros and cons of staying married to him, and make your decision from there. You're not an idiot for staying in this marriage.

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Chance-Bread-315 t1_jadnylm wrote

Reply to My (35F) husband (37M) pressures me to have sex when I don't want to, is this pretty common? by [deleted]

Although it may be common, it is not ok. Your husband is coercing, if not forcing, you into sex and that is a form of assault. You deserve to have your boundaries respected.

In the immediate short term: do you have another bed in the house that you can sleep in? Could you stay with family or friends for a night or two? When you're feeling emotionally unwell, a lack of sleep will only make everything worse and if your bed is feeling unsafe you are going to struggle to look after yourself and see what path forward to take.

Lots of people in this subreddit will immediately tell you to leave him and not look back. Although I do think that you will be better off in life without this man, while you're feeling alone and unwell don't stress yourself out about making rash decisions. Do go ahead and seek therapy. Do speak to your friends and loved ones about how you're feeling. Do learn to recognise the love and respect that you deserve, and then address whether your partner will ever be able to give you that.

I really hope that you find a positive route forward, sending love to you xx

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Reply to Gf (27f) and me (29f) are struggling to be intimate with each other. by myredhuntingcap

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Bigdaddiie OP t1_jadnjqh wrote

Reply to comment by the-mirrors-truth in I’m 29 (M) dating a 36 (F). Parents and brother won’t accept the fact I’m with her and keep telling me when she ages it’ll be a problem. They won’t hear me out at all. by Bigdaddiie

They are good people but I can fully understand why this situation would say otherwise. My parents do have more control on me than they should, I agree. But the unconditional love and sacrifices they have made for me growing up up until today hasn’t been forgotten either.

I’ve brought back home acouple other girls in my earlier years and although they didn’t like them both they didn’t object to me dating them cause they were similar my age. The age is the only thing that’s the problem.

But in response to what you said. Damn. That’s very deep and insightful. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to my thread.

I’m feeling the worst I’ve ever felt in my life, so thanks for helping with the pain although there’s ugly truth in there haha.

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Reply to [M35] I want to take dancing lessons and go to dance nights. My wife [F33] says that I either go with her or never go. Even if she decides to never go herself. by ThrowRAma12345

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