I'm worried that he'll be very upset though. I want to spare his feelings but I suppose that's selfish.

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Break up. You’re 19 years old. Been with this dude a few months. What other options are realistic

>And we both spent plenty of time in each others countries....

We did discuss the idea of moving to Canada on a temporary basis, i.e., 5-10 years before returning. I was and still am totally up for that without hesitation. What I'm concerned about is the fact that in say 8-13 years time I don't see returning to the UK being likely, especially when my son will be 21

>She told me that the guy kissed her but she didn't kiss back

Plus

>"I f**ked up, I kissed a guy".

Equals she lied to you.

Don't stay with a cheater that invites strange men beck to her place from the bar.

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You don't come out as poly like you're gay. It's a lifestyle choice, almost like being a nudist. Many people are attracted to other people outside of their marriage, its normal, but that's why it's called commitment. I could leave my husband right now and start something with someone else, but in our committed monogamous relationship, I don't stray. Sounds like your wife is not going to be open to a poly relationship, and I don't blame her. I think it'll turn into a hot mess and end in divorce. You'll have to figure out what's more important to you.

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You're 19 - go date someone else. When you feel like they're not the one, date someone else.

As Jake in Adventure Time said, romantic partners "is like horses, when you fall down, it's important you get back up again...on a different horse."

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You’re only 5 months in and are already feeling embarrassed by him. That’s only going to build. No point in dragging it out.

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You barely know him. You've only been dating for 5 months. Don't blow up your life for someone you may not be with in a month or 2. Table this entire discussion for at least - at a very minimum - another 6 months. Then revisit the conversation if you're still together and tell him your boundaries: you want to be married first.

This is perfection. Thanks you’re an Angel

You’re only 5 months in and are feeling embarrassed by him. That’s only going to build. No point in dragging it out.

It's okay to love somebody and know that they aren't the right fit for you. Don't you think he deserves to move on and find someone who is attracted to him?