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Boredandsleeps t1_jadukvc wrote

Reply to Gf (27f) and me (29f) are struggling to be intimate with each other. by myredhuntingcap

You guys moved too quickly, 4 months is not enough time to really get to know eachother, you both could go to couples therapy but that can only get you so far. Does your partner know about the medication you take and the side effects it has on you?

You also mentioned that she's on the spectrum but hasn't been diagnosed by a professional? Does she have any plans to see one to get a proper diagnosis?

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RaiseIreSetFires t1_jadub6c wrote

Reply to [M35] I want to take dancing lessons and go to dance nights. My wife [F33] says that I either go with her or never go. Even if she decides to never go herself. by ThrowRAma12345

You have been together a long time, no history of infidality, and she's still this pathetically insecure? Maybe she should go to therapy and fix her issues while you learn to dance. She needs to quit trying to control you and control herself.

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redditer6877 t1_jaduaxz wrote

Reply to 22F/27M Abandonment issue made him escapes from me. Gonna see him tonight need advice from people! by UCCUTE

I say this with kindness, but it sounds like you are looking to him to “fix” you when you say “could you just tell me how can I make this work?”. The answer doesn’t lie with him. It lies with you. I think you could honestly benefit from therapy to work through your feelings of abandonment. That’s on you to resolve, not him or anyone else. That would put him or any future partner in a really unfair position and would probably set up even more of a codependent/clinging relationship.

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WildlifePolicyChick t1_jadt7yj wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in my wife F 50 wants to emigrate to Canada and I MtF 40 want to stay in the UK, what do we do? by [deleted]

I'm not asking because I want to know - I'm asking because YOU need to know.

For the record, I'm almost 60 and I'm kicking ass. Can't speak for your mom but I imagine she's not ancient and crippled with age.

I think they'd be supportive of us doing what we want - for this reason I don't wish to take advantage of their good nature.

What? They would want you to live your life as you see fit and from that you conclude...you shouldn't? Because...that's what they would want for you? You would be taking advantage of nothing. Damn dude. Your family wants you happy.

I can't imagine it having opportunities in the same league as London.

Well I guess that's something you need to look into. Are the opportunities good enough? Relative to the quality of life? These are thing you have to look up and weigh with your wife - not me.

But from the above - and I'm just guessing here - you are reaching for any excuse to not go. Because you just don't wanna.

If that's the case, own it. Say you don't want to. If you really are of two minds, do the homework with your partner and sort it out.

Is it a big decision? Yes. Is it rocket surgery? No. Besides if you go for X years, you give it a sincere effort (and I mean SINCERE effort), and you want to go back? Go back. Planes fly round trip every day.

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Reply to I (f23) cut a friend (f23) off years ago but now I have the chance to make things right. Do I? by finessjess

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Reply to [F35] [M30] I've been seeing this man that I find attractive and he has my contact details. Will it be perceived as a red flag if I use this profile picture? by [deleted]

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