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carbinePRO t1_jae33rj wrote

Reply to 1 (27f) told my (38m) boyfriend about my suicidal thoughts by [deleted]

You did the right thing in telling him. He can now be a better support since he's in the loop of what's going on.

>I feel like i have to support my bf too and make sure i am “happy” even if i am not on the inside when i do see him again

That's just being in a relationship. You support each other.

Stay in therapy. You seem like you're suffering from clinical depression. Stay safe, OP.

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michuru809 t1_jae2t4q wrote

Reply to Should I (19f) leave my boyfriend (19m) because of his friends? by [deleted]

You should've broken up when you suspected him of cheating- especially after looking through his phone. Trust is dead, move on.

You should be calling the police about the death threats, you should NEVER have been trying to play private detective. You should block all of their phone numbers, including your boyfriend. See your way out of the whole messy situation because you don't know these people, and all they know about you is what your boyfriend tells them- which clearly isn't good because you're getting death threats. Jokes are supposed to be funny- death threats aren't funny.

If your boyfriend told his friends you were the greatest, you probably wouldn't be getting those types of calls.

Yes, breakup with your boyfriend. You should want to be as far removed from people who do these types of things as possible. I also recommend saying less about why you're breaking up- just "you know, I don't think this relationship is a good match so we're breaking up- but I wish you well." and let it go. The busier he is with a new girlfriend- the less his friends will bother you.

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DplusLplusKplusM t1_jae280u wrote

Reply to How can I (36M) convince my best friend (30F) that she is being ridiculous? by ThrowRA-wasabi

Maybe schedule a call with "Liz" and tell her everything you've had the gall to put into print here. Once she knows you regard her as an overweight colonizer who isn't as pretty as you are it'll be a lot easier for her to mend her heart and move on. All anyone can say here is that you reap what you sow. So good luck with everything.

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PermaThrowaway111 t1_jae253j wrote

Reply to Is my [26F] best friend [36F] taking jabs at me, or am I insecure? by [deleted]

I think its a little bit of wanting to prop herself up a bit more than take you down. She is taking a very unconventional route of wanting to build a mobile camping van for her living space. People are going to either consciously or subconsciously judge her for this choice. So what she is effectively doing is telling you all the great reasons she is doing this and why what she is choosing to do "makes sense". No one is going to question you wanting to buy a house. Her route on the other hand....

I'm again only basing this on one conversation alone, so it's kind of hard to see a pattern. But from my perspective that's what it seems like.

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jae24ni wrote

Reply to comment by ThiccAssHiker in Is my [26F] best friend [36F] taking jabs at me, or am I insecure? by [deleted]

Well, I didn’t get that, but she’s still a little catty without all of the other stuff. You’re just the more mature one. I still think it may be about her own self-esteem and competitiveness also. Like somehow you’re gonna outshine her. It’s actually really negative.

I would have a talk with her though I don’t know that she’s gonna completely understand or admit where she’s coming from. Since your friend she might though, and it’s worth it.

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Reply to Fiancé (35m) accused me of cheating b/c I (34f) took a midday shower. by CassCorazon

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throwrajnbg OP t1_jae1m7w wrote

Reply to comment by WildlifePolicyChick in I(F21) need to tell my boyfriend(M26) that I didn't get the abortion by throwrajnbg

Custody usually refers to a child living in separate homes when their parents are separated, you and I both know that. Child support usually refers to money given by a parent to another parent in order to support the child when the parents are not together, you also know that. Sure, finances and preparation means custody and child support, but you used terminology that is generally used for separated parents while I used terminology that is generally used for parents that are together. Regardless of what you meant, you phrased it in a way that the general public would assume that it be applied to separated parents.

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RepresentativeSplit5 OP t1_jae1k6v wrote

Reply to comment by theycallhertammi in My (31f) boyfriend (29m) has lived with me for a year and has no intentions to start paying rent or bills by RepresentativeSplit5

No, we’ve discussed it many times. If we aren’t fighting and I bring it up, he ignores me. If we are fighting, he says he doesn’t want to pay because he doesn’t want a future. Then when things are better, he takes that back and lather rinse repeat.

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SnooSongs6848 t1_jae1fxf wrote

Reply to comment by Biauralbeats in I (26f) am in thr beginning stages of dating a (28m) by yoyo31233

I’m sorry but body count matters. At 26 you don’t sleep with 50+ people. Not only are you putting yourself at risk for STDs but you’ll be doing that to others along with you look easy and like a hoe sorry but that’s the hard truth. She’s 26 not 53. You can literally type on google “do people with high body counts have stds” and the first thing it shows is “someone with a high body count may be more likely to have STDs”. You should not encourage op to sleep w a bunch of other men you will boost her confidence and the result is she may catch an std and majority of men won’t want her also again having a high body count doesn’t look good for a woman that’s just facts a woman is supposed to cherish her body have respect for it

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