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You need to decide if you are comfortable staying with this person and never being Mary if you’re uncomfortable with that and you absolutely need to be married in life you’re going to have to break up with this guy because he’s not going to do it. He said seven years and I know seven years he decided he doesn’t want to be married to you. He’s not going to do it any promises he makes her out of obligation if you feel pressured to do so he doesn’t actually need them and he’s not gonna follow through. He said seven years to do it he’s not going to so either you need to walk away or decide that you’re good with the way things are and you just accept it.

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You’re a sad old woman good luck in life

First of all, I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. And good job on blocking them both. I think it’s in your best interest to have no contact with either of those people from now on. Know that you will heal from this. It’s probably gonna hurt for a while but you were eventually will get over it. Time will help you until the time passes, spend time and energy on yourself do things to make you happy take you out on dates by yourself flowers get your hair done take a course and something interesting just for fun that you like go out with friends surround yourself with positive people and positive influences try exercising just to make yourself feel better with those endorphins spend time with family that you love that makes you feel good. Take dogs for a walk to the animal shelter just focus on you and who you want to become and you will heal from this. I’m so sorry it happened. Also know that you didn’t deserve any of this. It shows that he is a terrible person and it shows nothing about you or that you’re loving and willing to look for the good of people this wasn’t your fault in the slightest.

i don’t have a rage disorder or impulsive control issues, i’ve been tested. the result of me reacting that way is because that’s how i was raised, and i never realized it was an issue until that moment. my dad has always told me that if someone makes me mad to hit them.

Oh ffs.

who the hell encouraged people to get stds

get off your soap box and stop your moralizing to WOMEN only

It does, but it doesn't change the bottom line.

Brilliant news!

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Ok so he needs to pack his things and go back to mom and dad’s. He can leaves a few items in a drawer. He can stay over 1-2 times per week. Let him know that you will be getting a roommate so the time he gets to come over will be limited. He has no problem using you so you have to set boundaries so that doesn’t happen anymore. I would be cautious moving forward with him. A man that can watch you struggle likely won’t make a good life partner.

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It really got me mad, though I didn’t attack him. I simply asked why he was asking that and was he trying to connect weird dots. I could tell by his tone he wasn’t ok. Not sure what I’m supposed to say nicely to that? I couldn’t believe that me innocently showering meant something negative. It’s mainly the aftermath that I’m fuming about though.

Shame on you encouraging people to get stds. I’m a woman myself I’m not saying I have the smallest body count so I’m not sex shaming you’re here encouraging people to get stds a lower there body value. You are a terrible person shame on you. Just bc you don’t care about your health doesn’t mean others don’t.

For a college professor, you are pretty dumb.

The only one being ridiculous in this situation is you.

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Sure, you can leave for that reason if you so choose. But if you're currently in treatment for a rage disorder and impulse control issues you'd probably be better off being single for a while anyway. It can be difficult to delve deeply into yourself and try to figure out why you are as you. That process is often easier if you're not at the same time having to worry about a romantic partner's wellbeing and such. Take some time and focus on yourself so you can get better.

The kids don’t see him verbally attacking me. It’s mainly through text. Or very quickly when we are alone. I don’t actively fight in front of them. It isn’t an excuse it’s just the situation I am in with the baby. Had I not had a baby, I could really just up and go and figure things out. I feel the baby complicates things by 10,000

You should support him.

You should NOT support him by being "happy". That's a really shitty idea.

If you put on a happy face and pretend, that'll make you feel isolated, lonely and perhaps more suicidal.

You don't want that, and he definitely doesn't want that. You deserve love, you deserve to feel seen and heard. You don't deserve to have to deal with your mental problems yourself.

Don't punish yourself for being open with him, that was super fucking brave of you.

You need a partner, not a jailer. It's no good being treated like a criminal, if you're not.

Well, wait and see how sincere HER apology is.

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If it is true that she has no right to be upset about the marriage because you don't owe her anything, then it is equally true that you have no right to be upset at her ending the friendship because she doesn't owe you a thing either.

You have every right to play the "You don't own me or my choices" game all day long. You do not have the right to do that then get upset at other people for doing essentially the same thing.

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